The Worst Things You Can Say to a Woman Who Just Had a Baby

Don’t get me wrong, having a baby rocks. And I don’t think we need to assume the eggshell-walking position around all new moms. But it’s a big transition, everyone handles it differently, and I think it’s always a good idea to be mindful of others’ feelings.

With that in mind, I asked a bunch of mom friends what they hated hearing in the early days. They are all terrific mothers who adore their children, but I asked them to focus on just the negative stuff and to be brutally honest. So they were. And I definitely learned a lot. Here, what not to say: